- Tryer's only Try and Doers always Do!
- Splashing in mud puddles is way more fun than hoping your feet don't get wet.
- Looking people in the eye allows them to feel respected and shows they matter. This was especially true for the homeless and mentally challenged we were encouraged to interact with.
- Giving is better than receiving. I really didn't get this until I had very little.
- Talking to strangers is okay.
- It's always better to learn how to fix something yourself. The smart way to do this is by asking an expert and then standing to the side while they show you...
- If Mom is driving and we stop for a Chinese fire drill, you better be the first one back in the car, cause she's leaving your ass behind.
- There's no limit to the amount of friends one can invite over for an impromptu slumber party that lasts all weekend.
- When her door is closed and she's meditating, there will be no interruption unless there's a fire. If you're sleeping and your door is closed, she can make as much noise as she wants, open and close the door and ask you questions as if you were awake and responsive.
- A box of See's candy will fix anything.
- The universe is powerful and holds the love of all religions, prophets and guru's.
- The color of someone's skin only changes what colors they should wear.
- Asking for help is allowed.
- Standing up for yourself is important. We were taught to fight back and use our words. We all have a voice, even when it's against corporate America, a boss, a friend or a waitress.
- Words are more powerful than fists and it takes longer to heal.
- The word "can't" doesn't exist.
- When you get caught, always tell the truth.
- Big girls do cry and boys are encouraged to shed their own tears, too.
- Family is created from the heart, not necessarily DNA.
- Walking around naked is best when one has the house to themselves.
- If you get into trouble, no matter what you did, you can always call Mom.
- Getting in trouble meant your work load around the house increased and included pulling weeds, cleaning the whole house with a white glove inspection or babysitting your younger siblings. Restriction was usually included, but since that was harder on Mom, our sentence could be negotiated.
- Mom encouraged us to be creative. We made candles, jewelry and bean bag frogs. We had art supplies as well as pen and paper to write and use our imagination. We were signed up for ballet, tap, dance, horse back riding, acting, singing, bowling and ice skating.
- You could tell Mom the night before your class was performing for the whole school and she would stay up all night making your outfit.
- She was always the favorite mother amongst our friends and often stole our peers and played with them herself! Really she was counseling them, but we didn't realize that then.
- Having a lazy day and spending it in your pajamas and with a good book is a great way to love yourself.
- Mom taught us all to pitch a tent, build a campfire and cook outdoors. We did this without a man around to help or do it for us! We also learned how to follow rules and break them.
- It's okay to fart.
- Don't be a tattle-tale. It makes you look pompous and pisses off those you told on.
- We are students in life and never cease to learn. Mom went back and got her Master's when I was in high school.
- We were taught to be open minded and look at all sides. Our judgement is all about our own discomfort.
- Always be the first to laugh at yourself! Humor can diffuse many tense situations.
- Just because you don't have a good voice, it shouldn't stop you from singing. In fact, you should sing louder!
- Taking responsibility and owning up is way easier than hiding something.
- If you're going to exaggerate go to the extreme so others will know this is a dramatic fabrication.
- Apologizing is a gift and forgiveness allows the heart to grow.
- We have the power to change our thoughts.
- We can stop our own nightmare.
- Surrounding ourselves and those we love in white light is Godly and divine protection.
- Mom sees dead people and has amazing intuition. We've all had many instances with her reaching out just when we needed her.
- We're never too old, too fat, too poor or not dressed appropriately, to stand up and dance!
- And the number one lesson our mom taught us? That we are loved and accepted with all of our faults, quirks and uniqueness. Just as she is!!!
In recognition of Mother's Day and gratitude for my mom, these are a few of the lessons my crazy, gifted, living- life-out-loud mom has taught me!
Walking among avocado trees and citrus groves in the foothills of San Diego I have found my bliss, my purpose and my gratitude.