Doesn't the doctor who becomes a patient offer a more loving treatment?
So... if you are going through something horrible right now like a debilitating illness, extreme pain, the heart-stomping agony of a broken relationship, whatever it might be, I wonder how this experience will influence you, change a thought process, open the door to something else or teach you empathy.
Here is a great exercise I teach my clients. Take the top 10 - most horrible stories in your arsenal and find 10 gratitudes for each one.
One of my stories is that I was date raped when I was 21. Here are my gratitudes:
- I am grateful to learn that drinking excessively leaves me with no control or awareness.
- I am grateful to see myself through the eyes of another.
- I am grateful to understand the difference between victim and warrior.
- I am grateful to feel, know and wear my own power and strength.
- I am grateful to have a voice and the freedom to use it.
- I am grateful to realize how much I wanted to be liked, loved and accepted.
- I am grateful to tap into my intuition and my internal compass and pay attention to negative influences BEFORE there is a result.
- I am grateful to experience an awakening and shift the path I was taking.
- I am grateful to discover how worthy I am.
- I am grateful to know that no one can take advantage of me unless I allow it.
If our story becomes the negative, harsh, victim driven, nobody understands me, loves me or cares, THEN that is also what we continue to create and notice during our walk through life.
Ask yourself this: What are my top THREE MOST HORRIBLE THINGS THAT EVER HAPPENED TO ME?
Take one of those stories and write out the best lessons, discoveries, events, people you met, this led to that, benefits, empathy for another, ability to teach, blessings, encouragement, community, awareness... whatever it is for you, that gave you gratitude as you look back with the wisdom of today.